Until now everything had been easy. Your children were at home under your control, but the time has come when they start asking to go down to the street alone or go to the park or to the urbanization of a friend in a group. It is normal that at first you are afraid and suspicious that they are conquering these small spaces of freedom , because they are exposed to risks that are beyond your vigilance. How can we give them some space without compromising their integrity? How can we work independence and autonomy with children? Here are some tricks!
For children, independence makes them mature, feel important, experience the feeling of belonging to the group, make their first decisions and, in this way, build their own identity. For fathers and mothers it is a process of nervousness, fear and many doubts, but we know what we have to do. If you want to know some techniques that allow you to work independence and autonomy with your children, take note!
Let them do small errands
Do not be afraid to go buy the bread to the store below or to drop the garbage into the containers. It will be a way of gaining self-confidence and feeling good when you see that you trust them. You just have to explain to them how they have to do it, remind them that you always have to look both ways before crossing the street and do not talk to strangers. This type of tasks, in addition, will make them overcome their shyness , since they will have to talk with shop assistants and help them manage the money, thinking about the returns that they have to give them.
Let them indicate you with the GPS
If you are in the car, give the GPS to them and they are the ones that tell you what exits you have to take. In this way they will learn to orient and interpret maps and encourage their attention. They will learn about roads and routes, they will know their own city better and these skills will be great for their future.
Check that your phone is known
If we want to start giving wings to our children it is essential that we check that they know our phone numbers by heart and that they can tell the address of the family home in a complete way. If something happens, this type of data is essential to help them.
Always have a cell phone with a battery
One of the unbreakable rules if you want to start leaving home for a while is to carry your mobile phone always charged and to be aware of it; and that if their parents call them, always answer the first one.
Always come home with you
It is better that when you go home you accompany each other. Tell them not to walk alone. Going as a group always offers security and mutual support. Do not let them return home when there is no sunlight, agree on schedules and always respect the time of return imposed on them.
It reaches a middle point
Surely every time they ask you to delay the time of arrival at home, they argue that others leave more. Try to reach an intermediate point, a reasonable time for both. Tell them about the possible dangers, but without transmitting too much anguish, justifying your protection.
Let them do household chores
Autonomy is also achieved by being stewards at home. Do you think they are not able to put a washing machine? You just have to explain to them how the clothes are separated, how to put the detergent and softener and what program they should choose. Give them responsibilities and you will raise mature and responsible children! And, above all, they will get used to that day when they have to be alone at home.
Let them make mistakes
Error is learning. Many times we save our children from a possible error without thinking that they are getting used to having the chestnuts out of the fire. Proof of this is to ask for the duties that they have forgotten to do in the instant messaging groups of parents of the school. Sometimes it is better to realize that they have to be more attentive in class than to solve the problem.
Follow these tips and you will get your children, little by little, to be more autonomous, independent responsible and sure of themselves. Giving them a little space, they will promote their self-esteem and learn to prepare for adult life.